Posts by life is to short

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What is true love?

by hoser in

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i just watched the video what is true love.

first of all it is painfully long.

secondly there is an uncanny resemblance with megan(the one who married out of the truth) to the girl in the jeremiah book who married out of the truth.

I was the nerdy jw girl and I have lived to regret my life way more than Megan ever would. I married a elder and we went off into the sunset like the nerdy girl and her hubby did to serve Jehovah and it was HELL!

We went to where the need was great for elders. We both pioneered and lived on nothing. The "brothers and sisters" in the hall hated me and made it clear to me that they did. While my husband was out holding the hands of those in need I would met by myself for field service and there just never was a place for me in their car groups. The other young women in the hall went shopping and over to each others homes I was never invited. I was so depressed I seriously thought of suicide most of the time. Sometimes even now I wonder if that would have been the best thing for me to do.

I went to the CO and told him I was just loosing it. I never saw my husband as he was always to busy for me and our marriage doing something for the congregation. I had no friends, no family, no one. One of the MS's wives told her husband that I was never to be allowed in their home and she told me to my face I was one of the most stupidest people she had ever met. Another time when I met for service I was asked in front of the group meeting 'what good I did by even going in service?' The sister who asked me the question told me I was horrible at the doors and she wanted to know why I even bothered going out! This was in front of about 11 other publishers. Not one of the 11 others stood up for me or told the sister to stop attacking me. They all just stood there staring at me waiting for me to answer her. I just wanted to die so bad that day. I did not answer her at first as I was just so shocked and hurt by her clear anger at me. She repeated the question to me with even more anger and I just mumbled 'that I didn't do much good' she told me 'than why are you hear?' Those were the mild stories I could relate about my time in that hall. And that was one of just many halls I was in, none of the halls were kind.

So when I told the CO I was loosing it he turned on me and said I was being selfish. 'That Jehovah needed my husband now and that I could have him in the new system!"

I do not know why I watched that stupid video what is true love because I can't get it out of my head. I wish with all my heart I had been Megan instead of nerdy Liz. At the end of the video I just sat there sobbing because it is all a lie. I lived it know.

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Brave high school student exposes abuse and corruption within Jehovahs witnesses

by Watchtower-Free in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdvt_gyq-ls&feature=youtu.be.

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Totally amazing. I am so in awe of her, to have such courage to to stand up in front of her class and say those things.

At her age to understand the real truth behind the truth. I remember when I was her age I had this fast food job where I would have to open the store alone with the manger. This man had tried to sexually force himself on me and several other girls. I was really afraid of being alone with him for fear of him raping me and I knew if he did that I would be blamed by the elders. I knew at the time that it was so wrong but I was still so afraid. This man finally did attack a young girl who was not a JW and lost his jog over it.

Now looking back why did not that stupid fear not wake me up. I remember telling a sister about what was happening and true to my fears she blamed me told me it was my fault because I was still working there. I needed the job, I had no family and no one to help me and the job was all I had to live on. I was so scared on so many levels when I just should have had support, but I got nothing from the religion so yes I do believe all of her stories.

I am just so awe of her for being so brave.

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How to be happy flopping whoppers part time while pioneering!

by life is to short in

i was just thinking the other day why is there not service meeting part like my title says.

i mean that would really be helpful to those who totally believe the no collage thing.

since they do not want anyone to have any education why don't they at the very least try to help them to be happy living a life of poverty with service meetings parts, since everyone would be in poverty if they really listened to the fds.. like a part on how not to be upset when anther brother buys a new car parks it two blocks from the hall so as not to get door dings in it and rides all day in your car and does not give you a dime for gas.

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I am sorry blondie for the misunderstanding. No that is what I did while I tried to pioneer. Worked part time at fast food. It was hard and I was so depressed but I thought it was my fault because I did not have enough faith in Jehovah. That was why I was so depressed. I really do mean if they could have parts that teach you how to be happy living poor would be the most helpful. But they don't so it really shows that they do not want you to follow what they are saying is what I meant by my post.

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How to be happy flopping whoppers part time while pioneering!

by life is to short in

i was just thinking the other day why is there not service meeting part like my title says.

i mean that would really be helpful to those who totally believe the no collage thing.

since they do not want anyone to have any education why don't they at the very least try to help them to be happy living a life of poverty with service meetings parts, since everyone would be in poverty if they really listened to the fds.. like a part on how not to be upset when anther brother buys a new car parks it two blocks from the hall so as not to get door dings in it and rides all day in your car and does not give you a dime for gas.

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I was just thinking the other day why is there not service meeting part like my title says. I mean that would really be helpful to those who totally believe the no collage thing. Since they do not want anyone to have any education why don't they at the very least try to help them to be happy living a life of poverty with service meetings parts, since everyone would be in poverty if they really listened to the FDS.

Like a part on how not to be upset when anther brother buys a new car parks it two blocks from the hall so as not to get door dings in it and rides all day in your car and does not give you a dime for gas. Or how not to be sad and look forward to the future when you really want to have kids while out in service with the elder and his wife who had seven.

I know the answer of course but thinking about it now I realize that even the GB didn't want anyone to really follow their stupid rules. If everyone pioneered and had no kids, no money, etc where would the religion be. The GB are relying on the kids, of the kids who they told not to have kids to support them now.

It is all so crazy.

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Who REALLY believed in the idea of living forever on earth??

by stuckinarut2 in

seriously.....even when you were 100% in "the truth", did you really believe in living forever?

?

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Totally Why else would I have put my life on hold, not had kids, buy a home, go to school, live life. I put everything off for the new system. I believed everything that was told to me. If I questioned anything I was told my thinking was skewed. My whole life was the JW world and I thought everyone felt the same.

Now I look back and realize that I was so stupid. If everyone felt the same then why are there JW kids. Why did the parents not pioneer and go where the need was great, go to Bethel like I did. My husband kept telling me to keep my blinders on. One day they just feel off and I realized that no one else bought all the garbage that I bought otherwise there would be no kids at the meetings, no one would own homes, no one would be buying new cars because no one could really afford them living on part time minimum wage like we were.

I was just so stupid to keep my blinders on as long as I did,

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How many here gave up having a family for the sake of the "truth"?

by stuckinarut2 in

this is a sensitive topic for many of us i know, but i am wondering how many here actually gave up the idea of having a family "in this system" for the sake of "kingdom activity or service"??.

start the count here with my wife and i.

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Myself also. I always wanted kids. I always thought I would have children. I even had names picked out. But all of that was to wait till the new system as we had to pioneer and be where the need was great and sacrifice our lives now for the kingdom.

It's provably for the best as I did not wake up util my mid 40's and I would have really missed up the children if we did have them, as I was such a stupid devoted drone to the cult.

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Kendrick " Letter of Introduction " from Elders regarding Candace Conti Case

by flipper in

as many of us saw in the pbs news hour program and the abc news nightline program the elders from one congregation failed to communicate properly to the elders in another congregation concerning the child molester jonathan kendrick when he moved to a new congregation.

i have parts of this " introduction letter " from the fremont congregation to the oakley congregation elders so you can read it for yourself and decide how irresponsible these wt appointed elders were.

dated 1/16/98 it opens : .

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This is what happened in my congregation as you know flipper. I just happened to know that the husband of a new family that moved into my hall had raped his own daughter and molested two other children and had served 20 years in prison for it. While in prison he became a JW and once out married a women with a small little girl divorced her dated my sister and many other women who you guessed it had little girls and then married another JW women with a little girl and they had a little girl together.

I knew his past and yet the elders were furious with me because I knew it. They never received a letter on him from his prior congregation only the wife and daughter did. What's with that? When I told the elders what I knew of his past they told me if it was true they would have gotten a letter about it from his former hall and since they didn't what I was saying did not mean anything to them and I was to keep my mouth SHUT!

I went and got the police and court records myself to prove to the elders what I was saying was very much indeed true. The elders were beyond infuriated with me and refused to even look at the records much less take a copy of them. I had made copies for every elder in the hall. Only the CoBE took a copy and who knows if he looked at it or threw it away. I guess they finally after six months got some sort of letter from is prior hall about him and I swear if it were not for me he would have held some kind of position in the hall.

I was a true believer before all of this happened. I truly thought that they would do the right thing, it was probably the one of the hardest times of my life. The elders, the CO and even the DO forbid me to tell anyone what I knew. No parents were allowed to know period. And as you know flipper I did not keep quiet.

I realized it was not the truth because of this. It just totally broke my heart to see first hand that they do not care about children, it still breaks my heart. How can people do this? How can they go dtd and try to act like they are upstanding people knowing that they are allowing this?

The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing...Albert Einstein

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This Year's Memorial

by TD in

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perhaps i'm just getting older and crankier, but it really seems to me that the jw faith is deteriorating at an accelerated rate.. case in point: this year's memorial talk.

it was one of the most incoherent messes i've ever heard.

(and i've heard a lot of memorial talks over the last 50 years....).

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I went tot he Memorial where I live in the Northwest part of the US and it was the same. The talk just made no sense to me and the speaker kept looking at his watch. It was really distracting. He just kept flipping through scriptures and I was just wanting it all to end so I did not pay as close of attention as I probably should have.

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Where is it said , not to independently do deep study of scripture

by william draper in

i do believe it is written somewhere in jw literature .

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And to think they slam the Catholic's for not letting their believers read the Bible and relaying only on the Priests or at least we were told that. The more I know of the facts of the religion I was born into the more I realize that it is the same as the Catholic's just the names and titles have been changed.

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The 50 Ways to Be Disfellowshipped

by Wild_Thing in

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i was wondering ... what are all of the "official" reasons provided by elders for disfellowshipping someone?

i know the most common reasons are adultery and fornication, but what about the others?

a couple of years ago i traveled back to my hometown` and one of my old jw acquaintances told me that her grown son had been disfellowshipped for refusing to stop associating with another disfellowshipped person.

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I was threatened with being DF'ed for causing divisions in the hall because I told a mom that one of the brothers who was holding and taking care of children while at the meetings and was having sleepovers at his home for children was a registered sex offender and was listed as such by the state we live in.

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